What I’ve Learned About Marriage Thus Far

We’ve been married for 7 months….7 months! It’s crazy how much time has flown by. These last 7 months have been both incredible and hard {in a good way}. I’ve had to shed every ounce of selfishness and pride and learn what it means to truly serve another. I’m a better person now than I was just 7 months ago and hope I’ll be even better 7 years from now.

Let the Journey Begin

Going into marriage I had crazy high expectations for myself as a wife. I wanted to be this amazing cook, have a perfectly kept house and be the best coupon-using, deal savvy wife out there. These weren’t expectations set by anyone but myself and in my mind, that’s what the ‘perfect’ wife looked like.

In fact, in an attempt to be an amazing chef and try a new recipe, I made what I thought was delicious baked zucchini. After one bite, my hubby laughed so hard and had to tell me it actually was a baked cucumber. I felt so silly for having made that mistake. I continued to beat myself up with other silly mistakes like when I broke the umpteenth dish and left expired food in the fridge {oops}.

I was definitely not the ‘perfect’ wife I had envisioned.

But, over these last 7 months, I’ve learned that perfection in marriage isn’t the goal, in fact it’s impossible. Marriage is two imperfect people coming together to serve one another and ultimately glorify Him. Marriage truly is the perfect picture of Christ & His Church. He laid down His life for us and offers us grace each and everyday for all our ugliness and sinful habits. And that’s what we are called to do each and everyday for our spouses.

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Ephesians 4:32-Β Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

My husband, from day one, has offered me grace and forgiveness, but I wasn’t willing to accept it.

I was living a performance-based life, trying to earn God’s favor and my husband’s with my actions. But what I didn’t realize was that I already had it. My husband loves me unconditionally no matter how dirty our house is and how burnt our meals are . And so does the Lord.

Romans 5:8- but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Marriage is truly sanctifying. It’s a mirror into your sinful heart and causes you to examine yourself on a daily basis.

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I’ve learned to accept grace and forgiveness and no longer have crazy high expectations of myself. In our marriage, God has called me to love this man unconditionally, serve him with love and show him grace. And that’s what I strive for now everyday. Not ‘perfection.’

If you are new here, be sure to read our entire love story on how we met, fell in love and got married.

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